I had lunch with business growth expert Peter Thomson earlier this week and to help prepare for my meeting I listened to two of the modules from his excellent Accelerated Business Growth System.
In the modules Peter was shared his interpretations and twists on the work of Robert Cialdini and the factors of influence and persuasion. This is a fascinating subject but Peter repeated one of his favourite expressions;
"Away motivation is the catalyst for action, towards motivation is the continuation of action."
What does Peter Thomson mean by this?
Simply that the relief from pain (or the avoidance of future pain) is a bigger factor in a person's decision to buy than the promise of reward, pleasure or gain.
So when you are in a sales process, you need to find your prospect's pain - their fears, worries and problems- and then show how your solution can stop the pain.
The Other Experts Agree - Pain Is The Key Motivator To Make Sales
David Sandler and the Sandler Sales Institute strongly emphasise the importance of helping the prospect explore their underlying pain (see "You Can't Teach A Kid To Ride A Bike At A Seminar" or the excellent "Close The Deal" audio program) because prospects start by telling you about a surface symptom.
The first problem a customer will admit to is not the real issue and it's certainly not the motivating force. People will start with logical reasons which they feel OK to admit to but there is no emotional connection. Only by mining their pain will you create the emotional force and urgency to persuade the prospect to buy.
Tony Robbins takes a similar approach in his excellent "Power To Influence" audio program. A prospect in pain will buy, a prospect sitting in their comfort zone will think it over. Tony Robins talks about the need to find ERBN (pronounced "urban" and standing for emotional reasons to buy now).
In SPIN Selling, a similar approach is taken with the P referring to the problem the customer is having and I standing for the Implications so that you can help the prospect see the pain, damage or cost of doing nothing.
Isn't Selling Pain Relief Negative Selling?
You may have some concerns about the process of selling pain relief and I can understand.
Let's just take a little look at the process.
You meet a prospect.
They seem nice and you first work to build rapport to help them like and trust you.
Then you start asking about their problems ... and you dig, and dig some more ... and your prospective customer feels worse and worse about the problem.
They see how the problem is affecting their lives, holding them back, stopping them achieving their goals. They discover with your help how the problem badly affects other people they care about. They start feeling guilty that they haven't done something about it in the past.
Your prospect becomes desperate. They need a solution and they need it NOW.
You carefully explain how your product or service will stop the pain.
Just as you would want someone to stop hitting you with a hammer, your prospect wants the pain to stop. Their emotions are heightened and they will buy almost anything, just in the hope that it will stop the pain.
You don't have to close, your prospect is desperate to sign on the dotted line.
Is This Manipulation?
Difficult question.
You can't create pain for people. They will quickly tell you to go away so the literal "hitting your prospect with a hammer" won't work.
But you can unearth pain that they are already feeling but have suppressed. You have to do it tactfully and sympathetically through the art of effective questioning.
Trying to sell a dietary product by telling fat people that they don't look good and can't get dates is a big step too far (and of course not true in many cases).
People are very sensitive and if you go for the pain jugular badly, you will be insulting and make people very defensive. There is no chance of a sale because people will actively resist your ideas. I know because I am about 30 pounds overweight and don't like it when my Mum tells me that "I must do something about it."
Slimming product advertisements may show the difficulty of getting into your best pair of jeans or the disappointment of finding that your favourite outfit doesn't fit but they don't major on the physical and emotional consequences of being overweight.
Still using the weight loss/body re-shaping industry as an example, if you can gently help your prospect explore what being overweight and out of shape means to them by carefully questioning, your concern and empathy come over favourably.
How they feel about themselves. What they think other people think of them. How other things they have tried before didn't work.
You have heard the saying "a problem shared is a problem halved" and I think it was Peter Thomson who said "it's not a good talking to that many people need but a good listening to."
All these emotions are there in your prospect, just waiting for you to tap into.
You can't create pain. The prospect already has it but their self defence system may have suppressed the full impact to make life easier. If something hurts and you want it to stop there are often two options:
a) Do something about it to relieve the pain
b) Try to put it out of your mind by deliberately ignoring it and concentrating on other things
The first solves the problem, the second relieves the symptom but leaves the problem festering away to reappear again in the future.
So helping your prospect to find a great solution to a serious problem is a great service and can be seen that you do really care about their wellbeing. Using the thinking behind Jay Abraham's strategy of preeminence, if you can help them, isn't it your duty to do what you can.
The manipulation problem comes if you don't have a great product.
If you use a pain relief selling approach to sell a poor quality product which won't benefit the prospect, then you are manipulating the situation. You are acting in your own self interest, rather than for honest, mutual benefit.
Does Selling On Pain Always Work?
I don't think so all some people don't agree. I think it depends on the product and the problem/situation.
Some products are not problems to solutions but celebrations and exciting opportunities.
I've just come back from a safari holiday in Africa and I can't see a pain based selling approach persuading me to buy.
Using pain to sell a wedding dress to an excited bride goes against the whole idea of living the dream since childhood.
Some situations don't need the pain to be increased.
Housing repossessions are increasing in the UK because of mortgage arrears. If someone contacts a debt management company for help, they are facing up to their problems and don't need extensive pain exploration. Yes, it may be necessary to clarify what the ramifications are, but they can already imagine the shame of being homeless and unable to provide for their children.
What Happens After The Problem Is Solved?
I have read research that indicates that a customer who has bought to relieve pain is likely to stop when the pain is solved while a customer who bought to gain benefits, will continue.
This makes sense because the comfort zone creates so much inertia. When something stops hurting, there is no motivation to go on.
This is why Peter Thomson's phrase says:
"Away motivation is the catalyst for action, towards motivation is the continuation of action."
Peter recognises that relieving pain will make someone start buying but there needs to be a positive outcome for the buying to continue.
Going back to the slimming analogy, the desire to look good, feel good and be healthy is the motivation for continued action once you've hit your weight loss target. But if you don't have the gain clear in your mind, the pain of the continued diet and exercise program may tilt the balance when you've reached your weight comfort zone.
Peter Thomson Reveals The Seven Big Mistakes
A few months ago Peter released a great report called the Seven Big Mistakes which revealed areas where owners of small businesses and sales people were causing their own problems and causing lost sales, lower profits and reduced personal income and wealth.
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What Do You Think About The Issue Of Selling Pain Relief Or The Promise Of Gain?
This is a controversial subject but what do you think about selling pain relief. Have you found that it works for you as a seller or buyer?
To Your Success
Paul Simister
Your Profit Coach, business coaching for the customer focused entrepreneur
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